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Midlife, Menopause & You : Surfing the Rise and Fall of your Libido

Updated: Sep 20, 2023

Midlife comes with a whole host of new stresses, raising children and attending to family matters, working outside the home. It can be exhausting and it doesn’t help when hormone change fatigue sets in. Staying in touch with your sensuality can be a challenge when other priorities take front and center stage. Time out from the pressures of life can be a libido life-saver, to relax and enjoy the moment with your partner. If vaginal dryness is an issue for you, there are a multitude of products on the market to moisturize the vagina. Natural oils, such as coconut, can also work wonders. Practicing self-care before taking care of your partner is another important element to sensuality. Also, allowing yourself to get creative in the bedroom, changing sexual habits with your life partner can be exciting! Sometimes an examination of the intimacy in your romantic relationship is also necessary to keep the desire flowing.

Horny Goat Weed has been used in traditional Chinese medicine for over 2000 years to enhance libido in men and women as well as for symptoms of menopause and premenstrual syndrome (PMS). Not a bad idea to try a plant with so many benefits! Check with your doctor or pharmacist to find out what herbs are a good choice for you and be sure there are no interactions with medication you may be taking.

Certain foods, such as dark chocolate act as natural aphrodisiacs. Ginseng, maca, and fenugreek can boost your sex drive. Have you ever tried sharing some chocolate or other favorite aphrodisiac foods during love making? Life is too short not to try!

Some women go through a journey of transformation to a new level of authenticity in the way they behave and live their life. This transformation can lead to a surge in their sense of sexuality, strengthening their libido during midlife. It is truly like a second adolescence for these women. It can be a journey towards finding new parts of self that were suppressed which now require attention more than ever! This can be disturbing to marriages and life partnerships. Couples therapy may be helpful to protect and mend the current romantic relationship, particularly if it is a long standing one; and can create new opportunities to enjoy the relationship. Sometimes, however, this is when divorce can occur as new sexual interests take front and center and un-resolved conflicts in the relationship seem like wounds that will never heal.

Midlife and the varying hormones on your menopause journey offer an opportunity to master your libido. Learn what influences your libido in both directions. Explore new solutions in your relationship(s) with others and yourself. Increase your awareness of what it means to be a sensual woman for you and be aware that what you enjoy most about love and intimacy might be changing.

Surf the change, be the change, savor the moment, honor your desires; and you will master your libido.

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